Emotional intelligence

  When you’re the girl who overthinks, everything becomes more complex. You analyze every little detail — every text, every glance, every change in demeanor. Like a detective trying to see behind the curtain, you have a hard time believing there’s no hidden meaning behind what you see. A one-word answer means they’re mad at you. No answer means they want nothing to do with you anymore. Your mind skips right past the logical explanation that maybe they’re having a hard day or that they’re busy. No, it’s personal. ⁣ ⁣You spend hours typing and re-typing a two phrase answer, shaking as you hit “send,” and re-rereading your message over and over until finally they answer.⁣ You come off as needy, and you wish people understood that your heart, trust, and feelings, have been broken before, and you’re just trying to protect yourself. You prepare yourself for the worse in a vain attempt to cushion your soul because if you’re prepared for the pain, it hurts a little less. ⁣ It’s hard for yo...

  1. You are not what he wants or what he needs. He can’t see a future with you neither is he wholeheartedly willing to try and create one with you. If he did he would not have thought twice about taking the risk with you. 2. He would unintentionally make you feel like you are not enough. Aside from feeling down because of his confusion, your self-esteem gradually falls as you wonder to yourself what is it with you, what is it with you that he can’t seem to be sure of. Find someone who sees your worth and who makes you want to love yourself more. 3. He probably loves you but not in that way. You may mean a lot to him so he does not want to lose you and break your heart so putting you on hold is his way of keeping you, which is something you don’t deserve. 4. Uncertainty just leads to a lot of “what ifs.” Maybe he’s scared of taking a risk but if he continues to worry about it the both of you will just end up at “what could have been.” 5. You deserve to know your position in a perso...

1. You don't have to feel sorry for loving someone. You don't have to feel sorry for caring. For trusting that the people you gave your heart to were going to value it and nurture it. You don't have to feel like you made a mistake, like you need to be ashamed for believing in the goodness  and the Beauty of another human being. And i know when you feel so deeply for those in your life, when your love pours out of you like rain, when you feel so much potential, and much hope, and then you are asked to set it down i know what it feels like to hold that Weight within yourself, to look at an almost or a relationship or the connection you felt with another person, to reminisce about the beginning, the Beauty, the way you looked at them and just knew that they were going to be a special part of it. And i knw what it like to be here now, in the aftermath of that human being and i know it hurts. And i know it can leave your heart feeling like a heavy and haunted thing. I know it ca...