Emotional intelligence

Don’t feel guilty for cutting toxic people out of your life. Even if you love them, even if you had wonderful times with them in the past, you have to do what’s right for yourself today.   Remember, even though you might be the person ending the relationship, you’re not the reason this has to happen. They brought it onto themselves. It’s theirs fault, not yours. You have to do what is best for yourself. You have to put yourself first, even when it hurts. Don’t feel guilty for putting yourself first, especially when it comes to your mental health. You’re allowed to be selfish. You’re allowed to make decisions that benefit you, even if they upset the people around you. It doesn’t matter if anyone else understands or respects your decision. All that matters is that you care about yourself enough to do what is best for yourself. You should never sacrifice your mental health for anyone else. After all, if they really cared about you, they would encourage you to do whatever you need to d...

  Sometimes I am not okay and I used to think it was not okay to be that way.   It’s okay   to break down and cry.   It’s okay   to admit to yourself and to the world that you’re not okay.   It’s okay   to ask for help and to talk about your problems. It is easy to put up a front telling people around you that you are fine when deep within yourself, you know you are not. It is easy to remain quiet and keep everything to yourself. But that means you’re hurting yourself more and that’s not okay.You’re the only person who actually knows what is going on in your own head and you should not be afraid of your own thoughts or about how you feel. It’s okay  to talk about your problems. It doesn’t make you weak.  Yes, it makes you vulnerable, but it will make you stronger. Sometimes all you would feel  is that everything around you is crumbling. It  sometimes feels  as if you are hit by strong currents or on some days, it  feels ...

  Struggling with a mental disorder can be hindering. Whether it be anxiety, depression, or anything in between- it takes a toll on living day to day life to the absolute fullest. It’s beneficial to take a step back and evaluate the importance of taking care of our mental health in the grand scheme of things so that we can better understand how it affects us. If your mental health is not in a good place, most things in your life won’t be either. Here is a list of why your mental health is more important than anything. 1. Good mental health allows you to live life to the fullest. Anxiety and depression have the strong ability to keep you at home. Simple tasks like going to the store or the bank may seem like unbearable tasks. Our chance to take risks, go on adventures, and experiment with creativity all take a back seat: our self-deprecating thoughts behind the wheel. It’s difficult to pull the car over and take control; but doing so, with professional, medical, or personal help, wi...

  When you’re the girl who overthinks, everything becomes more complex. You analyze every little detail — every text, every glance, every change in demeanor. Like a detective trying to see behind the curtain, you have a hard time believing there’s no hidden meaning behind what you see. A one-word answer means they’re mad at you. No answer means they want nothing to do with you anymore. Your mind skips right past the logical explanation that maybe they’re having a hard day or that they’re busy. No, it’s personal. ⁣ ⁣You spend hours typing and re-typing a two phrase answer, shaking as you hit “send,” and re-rereading your message over and over until finally they answer.⁣ You come off as needy, and you wish people understood that your heart, trust, and feelings, have been broken before, and you’re just trying to protect yourself. You prepare yourself for the worse in a vain attempt to cushion your soul because if you’re prepared for the pain, it hurts a little less. ⁣ It’s hard for yo...

  1. You are not what he wants or what he needs. He can’t see a future with you neither is he wholeheartedly willing to try and create one with you. If he did he would not have thought twice about taking the risk with you. 2. He would unintentionally make you feel like you are not enough. Aside from feeling down because of his confusion, your self-esteem gradually falls as you wonder to yourself what is it with you, what is it with you that he can’t seem to be sure of. Find someone who sees your worth and who makes you want to love yourself more. 3. He probably loves you but not in that way. You may mean a lot to him so he does not want to lose you and break your heart so putting you on hold is his way of keeping you, which is something you don’t deserve. 4. Uncertainty just leads to a lot of “what ifs.” Maybe he’s scared of taking a risk but if he continues to worry about it the both of you will just end up at “what could have been.” 5. You deserve to know your position in a perso...

1. You don't have to feel sorry for loving someone. You don't have to feel sorry for caring. For trusting that the people you gave your heart to were going to value it and nurture it. You don't have to feel like you made a mistake, like you need to be ashamed for believing in the goodness  and the Beauty of another human being. And i know when you feel so deeply for those in your life, when your love pours out of you like rain, when you feel so much potential, and much hope, and then you are asked to set it down i know what it feels like to hold that Weight within yourself, to look at an almost or a relationship or the connection you felt with another person, to reminisce about the beginning, the Beauty, the way you looked at them and just knew that they were going to be a special part of it. And i knw what it like to be here now, in the aftermath of that human being and i know it hurts. And i know it can leave your heart feeling like a heavy and haunted thing. I know it ca...